…the reason for so many flourishing then failed relationships. But do we ever see a pattern which might suggest an opportunity to learn from our experience. What if, for a moment, we consider every person we’ve ever met and look for something in them which reflects us. By this I mean; have you ever blamed someone, judged someone or felt fearful because of who they are? Look at the relationship you have with yourself and question if the same feelings reside within you – would you react in the same way if confronted with yourself? Is it true that what we reject in others is what we are unable to see in ourselves?

To go further into the shadowy murk. Is there one person we hate so much and maybe once loved but now think so evil we cannot even utter their name? O.K, Perhaps not this severe, but who are we rejecting, them, or the self-hatred we deny is within us? Are they literally your opposite in everything they do or say? Look to see if they possess something, a quality, an ability you long for? What do they allow themselves you don’t? What are they free of that you are trapped by?
Once recognised, we often discover our deepest desires or greatest losses and by recognising this, we can begin to heal ourselves.

Inspired by my understandings having read this book:
LOVE YOURSELF… & IT DOESN’T MATTER WHO YOU MARRY
by Eva-Maria Zurhorst

Looking beyond the considered reality of most. How perfectly does this fit with the belief that we are the creators of all that is.
You can either believe that this is real, with individual people swirling around yourself and by your thoughts alone, we are pushed and pulled like forces on a magnet to match our desires and beliefs.
Perhaps we can step from one reality to another. Not so much changing what we perceive but shifting from one time and space to another, which has a slightly different storyline.
Or more radically. We are the only tangible thing in this world. Even this body is likely to have been imaged by us. Indeed, this is not only a more radical concept but it also adds the question, can we really hurt another?